Believe it or not, you can have fun with money. You can actually enjoy making and managing money. You can enjoy learning about money and make money management more of a game than a burden.
Often when speaking to a group I have observed that one of the primary reasons people have a difficult time thinking honestly, fairly, and profitably about money is that as soon as the subject of money arises they have one of two emotional reactions. Either they get mad or they get sad. But it doesn’t have to be that way.
Mention Money—People Get Emotional
Sometimes people get angry when they think about money. Usually this is because they have learned to blame others for their financial difficulties. If we can’t blame someone personally we blame whole classes of people. If it weren’t for those lawyers, big businesses, politicians, or whoever seems convenient at the time, we could enjoy money because we would have more of it.
There is no doubt about it. One of the most destructive societal ills of our day is the wide spread and misguided habit of thinking that our problems are not a result of our own choices but of what others are doing to us. It is essential to avoid that trap because it leaves us feeling helpless.
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One of the most destructive societal ills of our day is the wide spread and misguided habit of thinking that our problems are not a result of our own choices but of what others are doing to us.
Occasionally people are unhappy because they blame themselves for getting into a financial mess. They are depressed because they are so discouraged over feeling inadequate to cope with all their obligations. They think they should be doing better and they feel guilty about it.
But, as we have observed in relation to other money issues, neither do we need to feel guilty. If we once get it right we can enjoy money, even make money and money management fun.
Is It Possible to Have Fun With Money?
Think about a few of the things you don’t know how to do, things that you never developed an interest in. Do you feel guilty about not being able to do them?
Fill in your own areas if these don’t fit, but would you feel guilty about not being able to play the piano, fly an airplane, or program a computer if you had never learned anything about them? Of course not.
Now, if financial management is not something you have studied and learned to do effectively so that you could enjoy money and even have fun with money, why should you feel either mad or sad? Why not choose now to adopt a new attitude and say,
“I now realize that I need to know how to get in control of my money and learn to be successful with it. I will learn what I need to learn to be successful with money and I will make money fun in my life.
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Enthusiasm Makes Money Fun
Some years ago a man by the name of Phil Laut wrote a little book called, Money is My Friend. He said that one of the four things he sought to give people was “a light-hearted attitude and sense of self-reliance about your financial problems.”
His book went through more than twenty printings and was translated into at least ten other languages! Why? Because so many people were helped by developing a positive attitude about money. He taught them how to enjoy money.
It is not surprising that one of the basic laws of money speaks to this topic. It is the law of enthusiasm, which simply says:
Becoming a productive, effective, and prosperous person can and should be a lot of fun.
That’s right, you can have fun with money! You, too, will become vastly more successful when you learn to enjoy learning about money and developing the skills which will enable you to achieve greater success financially.
The Joy of Having Earned What You Buy
One of my favorite memories focuses on a telephone call I received from one of my daughters back when she and her husband were young. She called me to tell about a new purchase they had made, a new washer and dryer.
I could tell she was excited from the start. Her enthusiasm traveled right through the phone line. No more going to the Laundromat now!
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In fact, we didn’t even use a check. We went to the bank and got cash! It was fun to pay with the real green stuff.”
But her enthusiasm came from more than the washer and dryer. She continued, “We paid for them. We saved up for them and paid for them when we got them. We didn’t charge anything. In fact, we didn’t even use a check. We went to the bank and got cash! It was fun to pay with the real green stuff.”
This is what it means to have fun with money. You can learn to enjoy money and when you do your whole life will be more enjoyable.
In this case a lot of the joy came from earning the right to buy. When we pay as we earn we feel a joy never experienced by those who buy with a hope to earn the money later and feel more guilt than joy.
Learning to Have Fun with Our Money
How about us? How can you and I learn to become more successful with money and make money fun as we do so?
Make Money Fun By Accepting Responsibility
I think there are several secrets. The first we have suggested. Decide to accept responsibility but reject guilt. When things go wrong or we really mess up, no matter how bad it is just tell yourself that you have now had an opportunity to learn something else that doesn’t work.
Take time to learn from the situation and make a commitment to do better next time. Remember that the road to success with money is always under construction.
Make Money Fun By Focusing on Financial Goals
Keep your financial goals in mind, review them often and acknowledge every step toward success. If you have a stack of credit card balances to pay off, don’t wait until they are all paid off to acknowledge your progress. Make a list and draw a line through each one you pay off so you can see your progress.
It is for this reason that many advisers recommend paying off smaller debts first even if the interest rate is higher on larger ones. It is not actually the best in terms of the money and wouldn’t be recommended except for the fact that it is a great motivator to see debts eliminated.
When first starting on a debt elimination project progress is slow because there is little extra to increase payments with. By focusing on small debts first this increases the speed of seeing tangible results.
Make Money Fun By Celebrating Financial Achievements
Think about ways to celebrate your achievements. Celebrate when the total balance you owe on credit cards falls below each hundred or thousand dollar mark. Celebrate when each separate card is paid off.
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Each success makes the next easier and more fun, even if it is more challenging. Celebrating increases motivation to accept new challenges with enthusiasm.
Each success makes the next easier and more fun, even if it is more challenging. Celebrating increases motivation to accept new challenges with enthusiasm.
Needless to say, don’t celebrate by looking for some way to spend a lot of money! Celebrate a small achievement by jumping up in the air and clicking your heels (if you can) or shouting; celebrate a larger one by taking time to do something you really enjoy, possibly spending time with a loved one or friend you haven’t seen for a while.
Make Money Fun By Acknowledging Your Success
Finally, my most important suggestion. It may seem trivial, but I assure you that it will do wonders toward making your life more fulfilling and keeping you practicing all your new success with money skills.
Every time you pay a bill or make a purchase of some kind (always with money you can afford to spend) let there be a brief thought go through your mind about the joy of living at peace with your financial world, always knowing that you are well able to meet your obligations.
In other words, live with an attitude of gratitude. Honor yourself for having made the choices that make it possible for you and your family to have this happy experience. Appreciate the fact that so many never do.
Be thankful that you have all the money you need for this and any other necessary expenditure. And firmly recommit yourself to keeping it that way.
Fun With Money Tips for Beginners
Obviously, if you are just starting in this direction you have to adjust your thinking a little if you want to begin to enjoy your money. Think about how things are getting consistently better as you reduce debt and build up some basic reserves.
But because you are refusing to add to your debts and paying as you go, you can still feel great about that. You know that your peace of mind is growing daily.
If you do these things you will never make foolish expenditures again. You will never be tempted to incur unnecessary debt for any temporary pleasure. You will enjoy money more with every purchase you do make when you do it with cash.
And, perhaps for the first time, you will really enjoy money most when you choose not to spend now. Instead you will find find it more satisfying to deposit the money in one of your savings accounts for use later!
My First Big Experience Enjoying Money
Let me share a personal experience I had one winter. It was a very cold, stormy winter day (and in Minnesota that means something) even though it was only the eve of Thanksgiving. Someone, I don’t remember who, came to me and reported the bad news. “Something’s wrong. We don’t have any water.”
I checked it out only to find that it was not an electrical breaker or anything simple. It was the well pump. We live on twenty acres in the country, our dream location. But that does mean a few extra responsibilities, including maintaining our own water and sewer facilities.
Since it was after 5:00 p.m. and Thanksgiving was the next day, it was the beginning of a long holiday weekend. I wasn’t sure I would be able to getting any help at all. I called the well company anyway, hoping for the best.
Of course they could come, I was told, but naturally there are extra charges for coming now. To keep it short, after just a few short hours I was the proud owner of a new well pump. The workman handed me the bill. $1,500.00!
As I wrote the check some revealing thoughts went through my mind. I thought about how some time ago I would have been angry, depressed, or at least stressed out wondering how I was going to deal with this financial crisis. How would I pay this and have anything left for the rest of my normal bills?
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I wasn’t happy to have the bill, but I was happy that I had taken steps to become successful with money over the last few years, steps that made it easy to deal with the situation….This is what it means to enjoy money.
But now I felt happy, even joyful, as I wrote out the check. I was prepared. I wasn’t happy to have the bill, but I was happy that I had taken steps to become successful with money over the last few years, steps that made it easy to deal with the situation. This is what it means to enjoy money. It is not pride or anything of the sort, it is a positive sense of satisfaction for having learned to deal effectively with an important part of life.
Let me add just this word. I’m not speaking as someone who has inherited great wealth or followed a professional job I have trained for—I am someone who has chosen to work primarily from home in order to help care for my special needs son and to discipline myself to follow the laws of money you read about on this site.
The truth is that I sincerely believe anyone can learn how to get in control of their money. Anyone can learn how to prepare for emergencies. And given a reasonable time to work at it, anyone can achieve financial independence. But only if they will choose to do so and will with enthusiasm work at it.
The Last Word About Fun With Money
I want to conclude by pointing out that experiences like I shared just above are the motivating force behind this web site. All of the steps I take toward helping others learn how to get in control of their money and become more prosperous reflect my appreciation for what I have learned from those who have helped me.
Every individual can become successful with and learn to enjoy money if they will just decide to learn how. Moreover, if you decide to have fun with money you are much more likely to succeed in every area of your life.